Friday, April 11, 2014

Not Just ANY Sandwich...


 
 
 


There are songs that jog your memory, there are pictures that send memories rushing in - then there is food…

I am so simple when it comes to food…I am a fan of burnt hot dogs, mac-n-cheese and if in a rare mood I am not opposed to busting out the Raman Noodles!  I am not much on chain restaurants --- I will take a local family owned-Taqueria over it all.   Mike was the same way and being on the road all day he was no stranger to the taco trucks, fast food and the coinsurer of great dives!  Running errands at lunch today on a side of town I had not been in a little while, going down Alabama, I happen to glance up and notice Joe’s Deli…a hole in the wall tucked in between a Washateria and a Domino’s pizza…they have the ultimate TUNA sandwiches and best Egg Salad Sandwiches, which all combos…sandwich, chips and soda you can grab on any day for less than 4 dollars!!!!

Anyhow, memories came rushing back, for when on days when Mike was working near my building, he would scoop me up and we would park our fannies on the little stools looking out the window and just non-stop chatter about our day and days to come.  I have not been back there since Mike passed and walking in there today, a rush came flowing over me…a hello and smile from the owner asking how Mike and I were…he had not seen us in a great while…It took me off guard, it has been two years and did not realize the time passed since I had been there, Mike too…I smiled and at a moment that would usually turn me into a complete Alice Cooper picture, I hated to share the news of Mike, but thanked him for remembering his customers and their faces --- He sighed and hated to hear the news, gave me hug and said Mike was someone that completely touched his life.  He would come in between jobs and never just ordered and ran…he asked about family, personal happenings when they were mentioned and always followed up.  He said Mike was always smiling, never a frown and because of the smallness of the shop, he would sometimes hear our conversations as Mike would call me while at lunch --- always laughing and he remembers fondly us always talking fishing and our dogs. 

I admit, I had to hold back tears – I had to hold back completely breaking down as he placed my sandwich, soda and chips in a little plastic wrap bag.  I walked out, pulled on to Alabama and just smiled.  I thought I would cry, I thought I would break down…instead I thanked the good Man Above for this moment.  For the time I got to have lunch and talk about nothing in particular with Mike.  I smiled that even though he is no longer here physically, he in deed touched so many lives and obviously has left a mark on people that only had him as a customer in their deli on an every other week basis…yet he is remembered even after 2 years of not visiting.

On this note I want to thank Mike, my Hott Pockett for being him and nothing else for anyone.  Loving life to the fullest and never missing a chance to get to know someone when time was allowed.  Loving me so hard and providing me with a fantastic friendship, union ship and while here just being the sunshine on my face when I woke up (even on a cloudy day) and being the moonlight and stars in my eyes (even when the city lights masked the starlight)…

I hope from this we can all know that even when we do not realize our actions can speak volumes…be kind…smile as much as you can…talk with your eyes, it truly does translate your soul…and make time for the small things, for those to others are THE BIG THINGS --- XOXOXOX

XO LC

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Passing GO and Collecting a NEW Life...


 
 
 
 

Wow!  Hello Ya’ll – I have become a little sporadic in my blogging…something I clinged to during Mike and I’s journey…not only to keep you all in the loop the easiest way I knew, but for my own sanity as well – I could wrap myself up in words and turn a simple day of anything into providing every detail to ensure you all knew our every step and felt as if you were there…during the journey and even as “our” journey ended and “my” journey started as…Lyndie…not JUST a widow.

2014  has already proved to be an inspiring and happy year -- Work remains amazing, family and friends continue to just prove themselves and remind me how blessed  I am to have each and every one in my life…whether I see and talk daily, weekly, monthly or the occasional (Thumbs Up ;) on Facebook – haha! and I have been blessed with another chance of happiness. 
 
After Mike’s passing, so many different emotions of how I was supposed to grieve, how long, “to date or not to date?” ---- as I have stated before, after losing Mike, I surely did not receive a handbook on wrongs or rights in this new norm.  I did not have direction from anyone that was walking in my shoes with advice as to the “protocol” of what my next move was to be --- was I to pass GO and collect a new life?  Mike was loved by so many – we both were loved by many – I continue to be loved by many and his memory lives on and cherished by the same many…

I took a chance on dating, floundering like a fish out of water for the past year and half, knowing that it was no longer “Mike and Lyndie”, yet I was out on my own – I could choose to LIVE or Die --- after losing him, for one hour I debated not wanting to be here without him…how could I go on?  He rescued me when I was drowning, he will forever be my “Wave on Wave”, yet for me to give up, I would be the ultimate loser – Mike fought his ass off during his journey with that shit-face “leech” called Cancer – and in the end – Mike said Adios Asshole --- I have better things waiting for me --- he now is where we all yearn to be when it is our time…

Leaving 2013 and only praying that 2014 would offer light, hope and the chance of change…I was blessed…I met Bradley.  I never asked GOD to provide me with someone with an understanding of where I have been or where I am going…yet just to when the time arises, place someone in my life that doesn’t have to understand me, where I have been, where I am going, yet just love me and like me a little bit sometimes ;) ---- GOD provided.  He too is widowed…a commonality that I surely hate that we share, yet I can only hope that the Good Man Above knew not only handling this “Firecracker” of a gal, he too can handle my zero to sixty emotional breakdowns without a head turn or blink of an eye, just as I can his…

It is a day to day process…we are happy…no “Agenda”…only thing on our schedule is Happiness, laughs, a lot of Hugs and complete understanding even we do not understand but just know we “get it”

As always, I thank Ya’ll ---- since day one May 20, 1979 ---- GOD has been pretty Rad-ASS in putting people in my life at all the right times and keeping me a pretty great flow on a daily basis --- XOXOXOXOOX

XO LC
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 

Friday, February 21, 2014

Lady in RED...


 
 
 


So I had to share about the RED Heels…the red heels that take a toll on my toes, but I love them and can’t keep my feet out of them!  I learned a lesson on judgment today – and it left me in smiles…

I was SO avoiding going on my lunch break to get groceries (I’d rather do in my flops after work, yet I hate hitting the stores after dark – so just went with it…in my red heels) --- I got stopped before I even could click the lock button on my door by a man in a hospital protective mask looking to be escorted by possibly a wife or a friend --- he said as soon as I hopped out these red heels struck his eye, wondering who on earth can sport those and be brave enough to be SO bold…which then he relayed drove his eyes to my FCANCR License Plate.  I often see people while driving taking pics of it, etc – but don’t get stopped to often to ask what it represents and though I do not mind talking about Mike and sharing his journey, it caught me off guard in the Wal-Mart parking lot.  I proceeded to tell him the story behind it and he started to cry – I hated that he cried, for that was not my intention – meeting anyone battling cancer, because Mike is now with the man above – I in no way want anyone to think they don’t have a chance – He hugged me and said Mike’s journey did give him hope and he lives every day to the fullest, and if it had not been for the red heels that struck their attention…he may have never seen the license plate and never would have known that others understand what he is going through….hugs ensue and enter Alice Cooper private moment at I take myself to the Wal-Mart RR to “freshen up”…

Scrolling through the isles, FINALLY to the breaking point of knowing Girl Scout Cookies and Juice Boxes are not the best items to live off of, I travel the isles stocking up ---- insert adorable herd of elderly ladies – a couple in the go-karts and 2 with baskets…as I am scoping out which flavor of Raman Noodles to grab, I hear “How the heck do you manage in the heels, they are gorgeous yet so high, how on earth do you manage not to fall?  They seem quite high for everyday wear”  I chuckled a bit and said, “Oh I have fallen plenty of time in these heels, even tripped in an elevator and landed in a patrons “lap area” – but just as in life, you fall and you get back up…hope to only laugh at yourself and know it happens to everyone” ---- those ladies chuckled and we chatted for a bit and made our separate ways…

Finally getting all my items, went to the register, checked out and made my way back to my truck ---- immediately stopped by a lady and asked for a picture of my shoes – she said she was not brave enough to wear them ever but had never seen anything so bright and tall – haha – she made a comment on my license plate as well and shared with me her husband’s battle with Cancer and that though he has passed, she still lives life and appreciates all aspects and was so happy she crossed my path.

I suppose, though I wasn’t felt “judged” my shoes did cause some attention today, yet nothing negative and opened up some great meetings of strangers --- I am forever thankful today for my 39.99 Shoe Dazzle.com account and my red heels J  and meeting these people that if I had not hit the local Wal-Mart – I would have never touched their lives as they did mine…

Monday, February 3, 2014

2 Years...Still OK with Learning to Walk Again




 
In 10 days,  I will wake up, put one foot in front of the other and like any other day, I will progress…yet on this day, I will remember saying my very last good byes to my Mike, My Best friend…My Hott Pocket.

 Many of you have been along with Mike since day one…some even involved in the “conceivement” of our meeting – some came across our path in the middle, but by now you ALL have been with us to our end…and for that I am forever grateful.  Just as any milestone in our lives, as we approach them, sometimes like a ton of bricks, you are hit by them and knocked on your ass – the difference of the outcome, is usually the manor in how you get back up…I was winded over the weekend in approaching this date, for the first time in a LONG time…but I am UP! 

Looking back on it all, I have not once felt sorry for me…I experienced a pretty Rad-Ass time with him here…we all did, the ones that knew him and even vicariously the ones that lived through the stories and todays memories – like the George Strait song “He surely left us ALL with a smile.”  2 years at times can feel like a million and other moments, it feels as if I am just stepping out the doors of MDA, holding nothing by his wedding band a bag of clothes waiting on the valet to pull the truck around.  The past 2 years I have been oh so blessed to have Ya’ll, my Young Widows Group, such amazing (spirit lifting) friendships, the MOST amazing Family, GREAT Job (including Fabulous CO-workers) who don’t get me, but they do and just smile and love me for me…and the blessing from the Good Man above to allow my heart to feel again and not be scared, even when it is literally the scariest of all to cannonball into something new, completely trusting what you feel does  not have to accommodate any “standards”, “rules” and need “approval” from anyone but your heart…in the words of Robert Earl Keen…”It feels so good feeling good again”…

As the 12th approaches, I am surely in a MUCH different mindset this year – and I want to use this to simply thank Ya’ll…ALL for accepting me…loving me and being OK with doing nothing particular to “fix” me…I surely do not need fixing ;)

I’ve posted this before, many times, and just sometimes cannot get enough of it…Mike never ceased to smile – he brought joy into my life and all that knew him and remains in a happy place in my heart and soul – XOOXOX Hott Pocket!!


XO LC
 
 

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

These Shoes Were Made to KEEP on Walking...


 

There are those days where something just speaks to your heart…today I came across this that was posted by a friend and wanted to share…

Though the sentiments below reflect the journey of a widow…we all have those uncomfortable shoes that we wear throughout our lives, that we “adjust” to and “get used” to and make bearable – we conform…for at times we have no choice but to make them fit, for we cannot afford not to…

“I am wearing a pair of shoes....They are ugly shoes, Uncomfortable shoes…I hate my shoes.

Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair. Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step…Yet, I continue to wear them.

I get funny looks wearing these shoes.  They are looks of sympathy.  I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs….They never talk about my shoes.


To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.  To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.  But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.  I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.  There are many pairs in this world.

Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.  Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.  Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt…No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.  These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.  They have made me who I am…I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost her husband…my best friend – Author Unknown”
 
XO LC
 
 
 
 

Friday, January 10, 2014

Letting the Grudges Go of 2012...


 
 
 

It’s been a while…Hi!

 
Wow…2014, starting off good…suprisngly good!  I spent my 2012 in a funky fog, in denial of what had just happened…2013 was better, but spent many days hating 2012…I in 2014 opting to hold NO grudges to the previous years, they not only provided such wonderful life lessons, amazing people re-entering my life, some exits, new job and strength instilled to face this new normal and the ability to keep Mike’s memory alive in various ways and continue to uncover how many lives he touched before Cancer, during Cancer and after…he has left a mark.

 
When Mike passed, my world completely stopped, but I knew I must continue to live, for Mike would have it no other way.  Mike meant different things to all of us…but the one thing, no matter the relationship, he was a friend to us all.  I cannot even believe this time almost 2 years ago, so much hope for his recovery, yet, 2 days from today and a month he would greet all our loved ones at the pearly gates, look back with no regret, for he had an amazing and Rad-ASS life, but only look back with that huge grin, a simple nod of the head and a Billy Idol (White Wedding) fist pump and embrace on his new journey as the most wonderful, strongest and huge-hearted guardian angel we can only pray to have on our side.  With that said…Mike, you remain in my heart along with many others for eternity…

 
With that said, I have come to realize it is true…”Sometimes Forever is in a second – White Rabbit”.  I have a whole new year in front of me.  I was scared once…scared for what a “new normal” consisted of…it’s not too too different from my normal before, or the normal before that…we are forever evolving…even when Mike was here we encountered new normals…I like to blame the new normal on being thrown into widowism but the truth is everyday is a new norm…we never know what it will consist of, even if you have a routine – as they say on Big Brother…”expect the unexpected”.  I never expected to be “starting over” at the age of 33 and now 2 years have passed and I will be 35, still and always a “widow” but that is not my “hashtag”…”oh look there goes Lyndie #widow, #sad, #depressed, #poorgirl)…haha and in all honesty I do not even know what # means, I always just thought of it as the pound sign I push after a prompt when attemping to get a hold of customer service…Unfortunatly it will be forever on my “Life Resume”, but not a label…I am simply Lyndie, #plain and simple J

 
2013 ended well…I was so fortunate to re-connect with friends from childhood…all so diverse, yet something about being this age, losing a husband…it truly is the small things that count – the things you once stressed over and worried about seem so insignificant – you learn to cherish the nights on the patio with green ham and bad cheese BUT good wine, laughing it up with great friends that the main common denominator is happiness in life.  It’s the nights you are out with “the locals” and for a minute as the music is playing, bad jokes are being told, you stop to look around and as for a moment all is paused and you realize life is good – you are surrounded by people who love you and the world is right.  It’s the nights home alone and embracing the snuggles from the wet-nosed kiddos and slipping into you jammie pants for a marathon of your favorite series or diving into your favorite book, knowing you have nothing outside of your home door to worry about…and be OK with peace at mind.  It’s the late night bon-fires, telling stories of the past and dreaming of the future and just thanking GOD for the opportunity to continue one.  It’s the simple text from a friend, right in an unexptected moment, but yet it was the JUST RIGHT moement.  It’s realizing Unicorns DO exist, because one just tooted unexpectidly in front of a room full of people because you laughed so hard, yet the laughter masked the smell and the fact that…hey…Unicorns DON’T exist (Blame it on the dog).  The many cab rides with friends, only praying for it to turn to ‘Cash Cab’ NOT ‘Taxi Cab Confessions’.  I could go on and on with all that has happened, but I know some of these memories, many of you were involved…you are able to pick up from there J

 
2013 also held to be a VERY spiritual and heart-lifting year.  What can I say, Austin is a magical city! I was fortunate to attend Mumford and Sons in the ATX with some amazing people and oh wow, was Austin a different experience than when I was in my 20’s – it was so much more rich and vibrant offering so much love and eclectic energy…I didn’t want to leave.  I attended the ACL festival as well months later with the same group and that was a complete moving experience as well – met so many different people, allllllmost made it to The Capitol, and the road trip convos remain priceless!  It was a a complete year of just opening myself more than 2012 and living good, loving hard and just accepting being OK. 

 
I have no idea what 2014 has in store for me…I had no idea what 1997  had in store for me when I walked across the stage and grabbed a diploma.  I had no idea what 2005 had in store for me when I dropped everything and moved to FL just to do it.  I had no idea what 2007 had in store for me when a good looking, 6’2 Hott Pocket crossed my threshhold with a huge grin.  I had no idea what 2008 had in store when I married that Hott Pocket and we began our journey.  Still clueless in 2010 when we got the news this Good looking Southern Boy had Cancer.  Had no clue how to start again in 2012 when I had to say goodbye to that man.  Entering 2014, I still have know idea…do any of us?  The ONLY plan I have is to not plan, yet live, enjoy and know first hand that your life can TRULY change in a second and your fOeVER becomes over. 

 
In closing…we are human, we are petty, we worry, we stress…when you find yourself in those moments…try to capture a good memory, something that puts you in a “happy place”, somewhere were when you close your eyes, open and exhale, the issue at hand is not a mountain you cannot climb, but a mountain you can move.

Happy New Year Ya’ll!!!

 
OXOXOX LC


 

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

MY Very OWN Firework!





 
 
Tomorrow (July 3) Mike and I would have simply celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary. I loved that he was a simple man. Rather than getting dolled up and hitting the town dressed to the nines…we threw on some swim trunks/swim suits an...d flops, loaded the dogs up and hit the best fishing hole and enjoyed naps on the boat.

I’ll never forget the night of the proposal, the moonlight, the song and the compassion in his words. I will never forget the phone call asking me to meet him on the courthouse steps because a big wedding is not what we wanted --- Him, I and the JP is all we needed. That day, we took our vows, he swung me around as we left and walked down the courthouse steps – simple.

Mike had a zest for life that many can only hope for…even in the midst of adversity. I was so fortunate along with all who knew him, to know the soul within him…NEVER in my life did I expect to wake up to my Best Friend EVERY morning, and the next grabbing for him in the middle of the night and only finding the empty side of the bed.

With ALL this said, have NO sympathy for me…ONLY smiles! I experienced the MOST Amazing, Genuine Love I ever have! A love that we ALL deserve in our lifetime…at least ONCE. A Love that EVEN at your WEAKEST Moment, You feel You can take on the world! A Love that just with a simple glance across a crowded room you both WERE the only ones there and time did stop!

As this date approaches, just as ALL special dates…birthdays, the FIRST kiss, the FIRST I LOVE YOU, the FIRST picture being hung in our home, the FIRST night in our home surrounded by boxes, the FIRST Holiday…each FIRST I will cherish just as I Cherish Our LAST…Our LAST Kiss, Our LAST Holiday, Our LAST I LOVE YOU…

I remain SO extremely blessed to have had ALL of this, so for this Anniversary, I can only raise my glass to Mike --- a man that Showed me SO much, Loved me SO hard and Left me with a Smile!!!


“Experts on romance say for a HAPPY marriage there has to be MORE than a passionate love, For a LASTING union, they INSIST, there MUST be a genuine LIKING for each other - Which, in my book, is a good definition for FRIENDSHIP - Marilyn Monroe”
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XO LC