“I Miss You
When Something Really Good Happens, Because You're the One I Want to Share it
With - I Miss You When Something is Troubling Me, Because You're the Only One
Who Understands Me SO Well - I Miss You When I Laugh and Cry, Because I Know
That You're the One Who Makes My Laughter Grow and My Tears Disappear - I Miss
You All the Time, But I Miss You the Most When I Lie Awake at Night and Think
of All the Wonderful Times We Spent with Each Other for Those Were Some of the
Best Memorable Times of My Life - Author Unknown”
It was raining…I hate
driving in the rain! It was an area out
of my element, I love where I live and all around me…sometimes scared to
venture out of my “loop” and try new things.
It was a drive, something inside pushing me to go – continue to move
forward, accept my “new norm”.
It was as I could hear the
theme song to ‘Cheers’ playing through my head, you know “The place where
EVERYONE knows your name.” Well in fact,
this area, no one knew me nor was my name…I facing it head on. I logged that I had recently come in contact with
a new group to Houston. A widow/Widowers
group that caters to “Our” age --- the “youngsters” in this “club”. This was the first official meeting for us to
introduce and get to know one another, (which only had me circling the area for
an additional hour – ha! Dang GPS) to now step out from behind the screen and get
to know one another and share our stories…I headed to the door.
Thanks to the day and age
we are in of Face book and Internet sharing, I pulled the door open and was
welcomed with smiling faces and warm hugs…it was as we had already known each
other for a little while, even only by our circumstances that brought us to
these four chairs in Tomball, TX. Immediately
we dived into conversation that took us from discussing being in our new role,
to hobbies and interests to by the end of the night being introduced to all
sides of our personalities with some “Meep, Meeps”, a “Whoop!” and a “Boop with
a side shake” by the end of the night – it was a TRUE unforgettable experience
that has opened up a door for new found friendships that will last a lifetime…unbreakable
bonds.
It’s a role that no-one
unless you have walked the shoes as a window/widower, you can’t come close to
knowing. Losing a loved one is one thing
and I have lost a few close to me, and each loss whether a parent, sibling or a
friend, the feelings of grief remain similar but not exactly the same. This group allowed us all to come together in
a neutral, vulnerable environment to offer a since of compatibility that is like
no other…I am thankful! I walked away at
the end of the night with new insight on others that have traveled this path,
seeking understanding from others that is not so easily found.
I found this group ‘The
Young and the Widowed’ through an MDA publication. I hope that anyone who reads this will know
there IS life after cancer. I felt
alone, though I had so many family and friends for support, I yearned to find others
who may really understand what the journey I have completed with my husband of
5 years and onto my new journey as a widow.
The website is --- http://theyoungandthewidowedhouston.com/ and a small
group to date, our goal is to continue to spread the word to all
widows/widowers in the Houston area…you are not alone…you do not have to be.
It is a choice that
we/some were not prepared for, surely a choice at our young ages that as a
happily married couple spending our “Forever” with our partners…we now have our
lives ahead of us – a horizon of opportunities that I know in my heart our
loved ones would surely want us to move forward in peace and live our lives to the
fullest just as they taught us to!
XO LC
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